If You’re Planning to Be Happy, Don’t Get Married.
Marriage is not romance. It’s structure. If you want joy, buy ice cream.
Whether you believe “happy wife, happy life” or “happy spouse, happy house,” you’ve already missed the point.
Happiness is a fragile illusion.
If you couldn’t find it while single, don’t dump that burden on your marriage.
Because marriage wasn’t built for happiness.
It was built for order.
For structure.
For legacy.
Let’s break it down:
1. The Law Doesn’t Care If You’re Happy
Go to court and cry, “I’m not happy in this marriage.”
The judge won’t blink.
They’ll ask:
“Where will the kids stay?”
“Who gets the house?”
“How much are you paying in child support?”
Nobody checks if your love language was ignored.
Nobody reads your poems.
They only ask:
“What’s best for the children?”
Divorce isn’t a heartbreak process.
It’s asset redistribution.
2. The Bible Never Promised Joy—It Promised Responsibility
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,” yes.
But where did it say you’d be dancing every weekend?
The Bible talks about:
Legacy.
Inheritance.
Children’s children.
Not “how she makes you feel.”
If your marriage isn’t producing something beyond mood swings, you’re wasting your vows.
4. Marriage Is About Roles—Not Romance
Who wakes the baby at 2am?
Who washes dishes?
Who pays the rent?
Who handles what—and when?
Marriage isn’t a freestyle concert.
It’s a scheduled flight.
If you don’t define roles,
you’ll default to resentment.
Love without logistics is a lost battle.
5. Think of Marriage as a Monopoly of Human Assets
What if your wife’s father is Warren Buffett?
What if your brother-in-law is Donald Trump?
Now compare that to marrying someone who’s in three pyramid schemes,
testing lip gloss on TikTok,
and calculating her self-worth by how many filters she can swipe in one day.
Marriage isn’t just about attraction.
It’s about alignment.
It’s about access.
It’s about bloodlines.
Don’t marry cute.
Marry strategic.
5. The Honeymoon Ends. What’s Next?
Her body won’t excite you forever.
Your jokes will lose their spark.
The butterflies will die.
And yes—you’ll meet beauty elsewhere.
At the gym. In church. On the street.
But let’s be honest:
Every fine woman you meet?
There’s a man out there who already got tired of her.
Chasing happiness in marriage is like chasing fireworks in the rain.
6. Common Sense Must Be a Requirement
If she can’t reason in sequence—
If every disagreement becomes drama—
If her emotions cancel out your facts—
That’s not a wife.
That’s a liability.
You’ll say, “I made a mistake.”
She’ll say, “Then I’ll make mine too.”
Cheating for cheating.
Silence for silence.
Madness for madness.
Now it’s no longer a home.
It’s an emotional war zone.
8. Most Villains Are Just People Who Can’t Communicate
She can’t speak her mind.
She bottles it up.
She weaponizes silence.
Now you’re stuck in a house full of landmines,
guessing what went wrong.
And nothing breaks a man faster than emotional confusion.
If she can’t express herself clearly, calmly, and consistently—
it’s not a marriage.
It’s a time bomb.
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The Brutal Truth?
Marriage was never meant to make you happy.
It was meant to:
✅ Provide structure
✅ Build stability
✅ Preserve continuity
✅ Raise legacy
If you want happiness, go for a walk.
Buy ice cream.
Watch Netflix.
But if you want legacy?
Build a marriage.
Brick by brick.
Role by role.
Because love will fade.
Sex will fade.
Even loyalty can fade.
But structure?
That’s what makes the marriage stand.
So before you say “I do,”
ask yourself:
Am I ready for responsibility—
or am I just chasing a high?
Let the honeymooners cry in paragraphs.
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